Shakespeare said, "What's in a name?" Someone said, "If there was nothing in a name then why to keep a name?" I say, "There are so many things to bother about, what difference it makes if we add one more to the list?" So the journey of name begins with the first step we have in the world or may be even before and the way it shapes it's life is dependent on some one else, you. Yes we are responsible for the life of our name. We may burn the midnight lamps to make a success for our names or we may end up making it lose the battle of existence.
It takes a lot to add meaning to our name and just takes a snap to shatter it. This is something what everyone knows. But we tend to forget that in doing that are we missing on something. Think hard and you will get to what I want you to arrive at.
Yes, in trying to build an existence for our name we end up killing our own existence. The more we sacrifice our being the more we are able to add value to our name. Is it worth it? We may not have an answer to this, but I am sure you will agree that it depends upon the objective of the individual. For a few making a name is the sole purpose of their existence. While for others name matters only if it holds any importance or else they are happy with their own life. Now, if there are only two types of people it is definately not an easy task to have a defined
objective.
For me, there are another set of people. They dream and dream to make names of their loved ones or make name for their loved ones. These people are certainly those who are ready to chase the life and any challenge that they come around. More than
that, often they are carried away by emotional objective than sensible approach.
So now I guess all of us will agree with why Shakespeare was stuck with "To be or not to be".
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Relationship with Distance
What comes to your mind when I say a mile or a km. May be a distance you need to cover by road, rail or any other transport. Ever wondered what it takes to cover a distance between two people? How do we measure this distance? I do not have a
rational to measure this, but I know a method to decrease this. Do not have any wrong impression that I am going to share some magical spells to get close in relationships. In fact, I am going to talk of relations with distance and you can figure out the hidden magical spells, if want to say that.
They say if you loose contact you tend to see the relationship fading. I argue, doesn't it mean that the very existence of the relationship was so shallow that a temporary loss of contact wiped it off. Maintaining contacts, understanding each other, being there for one another is very essential. What is more essential, is to maintain and try to come up with ideas to cut down the problems creating those distances. Of course, we may not have solutions to every problem but we can come up with a mid way path to counter these distances and the troubles arising from them. I am not saying you need to stick around to make something happen. Instead you should do every bit for the relationship that matters for you. Every other thing will start
falling in line there after.
Being too optimistic. Yes, I see lots of challenges creeping in while we try to go ahead with this idea of mine. So before you go ahead let us discuss those road blocks, after all we are trying to cover a distance. One tends to be disehearted and at times may feel the snarling pinch of the distance. You may feel drifted apart and look for support and some one around. You may like to find people who are there to be with you. That is not inhuman and is totally accepted. The million dollar question is how do you look at this new or temporary support grooming up. Do we ever anticipate what might happen once the new support throws a dark side to us. What if this new support also vanishes? Would we start looking for another support? If that would be the case I feel we might end up in a merry-go-round. Does n't this suggest it is more advisable to try and support your existing relations rather than looking for temporary supports.
Having said that, let us look at the roads to relationship. The trust and the sense of being for one another besides having the light of charm and passion for each other continues to shorten the long distance in relations. As long as the spark of being together continues to be there I don't see any harm in the actions you might take to overcome the road blocks. It has been always true that we need to stand for each other, but what is more important is we need to learn how to sacrifice for each
other. We not only need to appreciate each other but we also need to become a picture of appreciation for each other. As long as we continue to do this I don't see any kind of a distance playing a role in a relationship.
rational to measure this, but I know a method to decrease this. Do not have any wrong impression that I am going to share some magical spells to get close in relationships. In fact, I am going to talk of relations with distance and you can figure out the hidden magical spells, if want to say that.
They say if you loose contact you tend to see the relationship fading. I argue, doesn't it mean that the very existence of the relationship was so shallow that a temporary loss of contact wiped it off. Maintaining contacts, understanding each other, being there for one another is very essential. What is more essential, is to maintain and try to come up with ideas to cut down the problems creating those distances. Of course, we may not have solutions to every problem but we can come up with a mid way path to counter these distances and the troubles arising from them. I am not saying you need to stick around to make something happen. Instead you should do every bit for the relationship that matters for you. Every other thing will start
falling in line there after.
Being too optimistic. Yes, I see lots of challenges creeping in while we try to go ahead with this idea of mine. So before you go ahead let us discuss those road blocks, after all we are trying to cover a distance. One tends to be disehearted and at times may feel the snarling pinch of the distance. You may feel drifted apart and look for support and some one around. You may like to find people who are there to be with you. That is not inhuman and is totally accepted. The million dollar question is how do you look at this new or temporary support grooming up. Do we ever anticipate what might happen once the new support throws a dark side to us. What if this new support also vanishes? Would we start looking for another support? If that would be the case I feel we might end up in a merry-go-round. Does n't this suggest it is more advisable to try and support your existing relations rather than looking for temporary supports.
Having said that, let us look at the roads to relationship. The trust and the sense of being for one another besides having the light of charm and passion for each other continues to shorten the long distance in relations. As long as the spark of being together continues to be there I don't see any harm in the actions you might take to overcome the road blocks. It has been always true that we need to stand for each other, but what is more important is we need to learn how to sacrifice for each
other. We not only need to appreciate each other but we also need to become a picture of appreciation for each other. As long as we continue to do this I don't see any kind of a distance playing a role in a relationship.
Monday, December 7, 2009
Lemme Think
Some great person has given his wonderful thought as " If you are my friend do not walk infront of me, for I may not follow you. Neither walk behind me, for I may not guide you. Walk by me for I would need you by my side each step I take forward." Most of us would say what a beautiful thought it is. Let me think if this thought is really that great.
Do we really want some one to be by our side. If that's the case why do we keep shouting for space and privacy. May be this thought was for people who want emotional support and require mentorship in one form or the other. One may also argue that humans being a social species are those who need some one to share their experiences and feelings. Hold on did I say we need some one to share with. Who could be the person we might be willing to share with. Our spouse, a close friend, a friend, a mentor, an online friend, relatives, family members....who? So we return to our first question what about our privacy then. Do we really want to share everything or do we want to filter our experiences and then share? What would happen if we do not share? Is sharing that important? What elese can I do if I do not share? Lemme think.
No, some one says there is no existence without friends. You need people around you for you can not think of a life without them. Aha! so does it mean your experiences are all with your friends, or do you create your experiences with them? Then what do you share with them. Agreed friends are some one whom you can count on unconditionally but does it mean your experiences and viewpoints be always motivated through their existence. Do we need to be so bogged down if we do not find any of our friends around? Does it cause an alarming bell to ring if one of your friend misinterprets your feelings and experiences? There are several of these unanswered questions which needs a thought to be given. "Individual's Identity", isn't this the first thing with which we started our journey? Didn't we made friends with whom we were able to gel with smoothly? Certainly we need to maintain our identity and for that we may end up with no one either walking behind us, or infront of us or by our side. Still we need to get going and continue with our journey.
I actually tend to agree with, "We just need to make a difference and rest will follow." You may need people around you but they should not limit you in your journey way forward. Rest assured you are your own travel mate and in this journey the only companion that you might find is the look like of your soul.
Do we really want some one to be by our side. If that's the case why do we keep shouting for space and privacy. May be this thought was for people who want emotional support and require mentorship in one form or the other. One may also argue that humans being a social species are those who need some one to share their experiences and feelings. Hold on did I say we need some one to share with. Who could be the person we might be willing to share with. Our spouse, a close friend, a friend, a mentor, an online friend, relatives, family members....who? So we return to our first question what about our privacy then. Do we really want to share everything or do we want to filter our experiences and then share? What would happen if we do not share? Is sharing that important? What elese can I do if I do not share? Lemme think.
No, some one says there is no existence without friends. You need people around you for you can not think of a life without them. Aha! so does it mean your experiences are all with your friends, or do you create your experiences with them? Then what do you share with them. Agreed friends are some one whom you can count on unconditionally but does it mean your experiences and viewpoints be always motivated through their existence. Do we need to be so bogged down if we do not find any of our friends around? Does it cause an alarming bell to ring if one of your friend misinterprets your feelings and experiences? There are several of these unanswered questions which needs a thought to be given. "Individual's Identity", isn't this the first thing with which we started our journey? Didn't we made friends with whom we were able to gel with smoothly? Certainly we need to maintain our identity and for that we may end up with no one either walking behind us, or infront of us or by our side. Still we need to get going and continue with our journey.
I actually tend to agree with, "We just need to make a difference and rest will follow." You may need people around you but they should not limit you in your journey way forward. Rest assured you are your own travel mate and in this journey the only companion that you might find is the look like of your soul.
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